Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgendered, Two-Spirited, Queer, Questioning + Parents (LGBTQ)
Planning for kids.
Are you thinking about bring a child into your life? Decisions such as carrying, surrogacy, donors and adoption are exciting and scary. Suddenly old stories begin to affect your vision on how to create the family you want. Do you feel that you shouldn’t have children because you are gay or queer? It’s totally natural to feel afraid about the health and welfare of your child, but raising them with two dads or two moms isn’t going to mess them up. With Tania you can unpack old stories and design new paths to explore, whether you are just embarking on this journey or are fully absorbed in it already.
You might also find that once you are a parent everything changes. Sex drive, perception of risk, commitment, priorities and friendships are all thrown into the pot - it’s now time to debrief, get grounded and figure out what really matters and how to live that fully.
Where is your community? Has parenthood increased your invisibility or isolation? How do you navigate heterosexual assumptions and heterosexual privilege when raising your child?You can make it look easy to take on the world for you and your family, but then fall apart in the privacy of your home.Creating space to talk about the context in which you are raising your child is helpful when you feel distant from your partner. And if you are doing it solo, therapy is just another part of building a supportive community.
Having queer parents doesn’t put your child at a disadvantage, but maybe you worry about that sometimes. “Queer spawn” grow up healthy, happy, successful, straight and gay - like all other families, maybe even a little better! But maybe you need to talk about this to undo the stories you’ve been told overtly and subtly in our society. Challenging hetero-normative practices and experiences is a part this exploring.
Therapy with LGBTQ families includes but is not limited to Two-Spirited, Questioning, Pansexual, Queer, and CIS-identified partners, and non-gender conforming folks. Your family construct is welcomed.